Morning Coffee #28: Every disappointment is a Bini girl named Blessing

David Alagoa
2 min readDec 9, 2020

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I once scheduled a date with a girl named Blessing. She was beautiful. That’s all I could say about her then. As I waited for her outside the restaurant for about 30 minutes, making calls and sending messages that got no responses, it dawned on me that Blessing was not going to show up. She had stood me up and I was disappointed. As I slowly walked back home, hissing and pretending the cold evening wind was bringing tears to my eyes, I started laughing. Disappointment was a Blessing. Even when I’ve been stood up, I try to do a self-prescribed stand up comedy routine.

Housing cleaning is a form of therapy.

Act like a beautiful woman is coming to pay you a visit and dress appropriately. Maybe that way you will learn a few things about taking care of your looks.

It is difficult to thrive in an environment that doesn’t value the same things you do. The obvious thing to do is to change environments but then as we have clearly seen, relocating to Canada isn’t as easy as relocating to Lekki.

There’s an analogy I have about functioning systems. It’s not that people are dirty. It’s just that if there isn’t a proper system that makes it easy to flush a toilet after use, you are going to have a lot of shit and flies in public toilets. Hence, to bring the best out of people, a system needs to be designed to make it easy to be the best.

But then as we have clearly seen, relocating to Switzerland isn’t as easy as flushing a toilet.

I rarely smoke weed but when I do, I always wonder how people would want to remain in a state of daze and sluggishness. However, I’ve come to learn that it has different effects on people so I tend not to judge. I will judge though if your reaction to weed is stripping yourself naked and running around.

Sometimes one has to make the hard decision to not pursue a goal if it no longer has any appeal to them. Especially if there’s a change in direction.

As for the disappointment named Blessing, she eventually called me back to apologise and we rescheduled another date. This time, not only did I not show up, I deliberately kept my phone away and did some guitar lessons. Only for me to check my phone hours later and see two missed calls from my cousin and none from Blessing. It turns out disappointment was still a Blessing.

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David Alagoa
David Alagoa

Written by David Alagoa

In one sentence: I write for the sake of writing.

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